I was out of the loop for a few days. We went to an annual event this weekend and had a great time. Of course my social friend was along for the ride and I paid him dearly on Saturday night. Open Bar, wine at dinner never a good combination. Suffered for it all day on Sunday. Manage to rehydrate and woke feeling good on Monday only to undermined myself yet again. I have figured out what or I should say who will be my biggest challenge.
I have a friend that I have had for years, let call him Lonnie. Lonnie and I have been through thick and thin and each have a social friend who goes with us to everything. I was thinking yesterday that this is going to be my hugest obstacle. Actually my hugest obstacle is myself but this is what Lonnie and I do. We really don't have much else. I'm sure your thinking to yourself then stop hanging around him. Well it's not that easy. I have known him since I was 7. 35 years, he's really not just a friend he is family.
So a goal that I'm adding will be "things and outlets" to do with Lonnie that don't involve drinking. Some days this will be easy other days like yesterday will be harder. So I will be thinking on this over the next few weeks to mentally prepare myself. If I have an action plan I know I will be stronger. Just saying I won't hang out with him is not an option.
In the words of Mark Tuschel, I am the only one who causes me to drink. I am the only one who has to say NO. It's not right to enforce my beliefs or restrictions on others. I am the one who decides whether I drink or not.
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